Who we were, who we are, and who we want to be
We are the summation of our reactions to our experiences. Change your reaction and/or your experiences to become a different you.
The Bible can be thought of as a compilation of experiences, reactions and outcomes. Person A experienced hardship and reacted with faith, loyalty, and humility with an outcome of perseverance and joy. Person B experienced hardship and reacted with deceit, greed, and selfishness with an outcome of damnation and humiliation.
The chain of experience, reaction, and outcome is most likely not as clear and straightforward in your own life. Sometimes the habit of reacting a certain way creates a desired or undesired outcome. Some times the reaction itself is it’s own outcome. For example people who stress/complain/argue about every little thing tend to age quickly and have stress related health problems while those on the opposite side of the reaction spectrum have the opposite outcome.
If you have ever read a relationship book you know how to identify if you are attracting similar experiences/men/women and reacting in a similar way i.e. pushing good people away, letting bad people stay etc. Most self-help books teach you how to slowly get out of the habit of reacting a certain way to a certain experience.
How do we change?
Therapists always ask their patients to tell them about their childhood. Th goal of the therapist is to find the experiences or reactions that created the path the patient is on currently. “My mother [always or never] did this, so that is why I [always or never] do that.
Here’s your homework… Over the next few weeks consciously experience things that are out of your normal routine and react to everyday stimuli differently. Report back with changes regardless of their scope or size… A feeling of excitement on an usually boring day is just as significant as getting a promotion at work.